Pressure from Family & Other Sources

Many students I have worked with faced pressure from their families to attend a top school or choose a certain major. Often I hear about engineering and medicine as majors that parents expect their children to follow. With schools, it is either a top public university or else. These expectations can be difficult for students because they may or may not have the same wishes for their college experience as their parents. In some cases, there exist cultural ties that bind students to the expectations of their families and parents. How can students handle these extenal expectations?

Students know better than outsiders how strong the expectations are. In some cases, failure to meet expectations can bring shame to the student and the family. In these instances, following what has been laid down is not an option. It is my suggestion to students in these circumstances to take a "both/and" approach to their education, especially if they do not love what they have to do. If you must major in engineering for example, then consider minoring in something that is fun and interesting to you. You don't need to minor, you will have room in your schedule to take miscellaneous classes that interest you. However, why not come out with a diploma that has both a major and a minor?

There are other acceptable ways to be a "both/and" student. Consider studying abroad if that interests you. You can continue your education in the field given, but also enhance your overall educational experience. Being active in clubs and organizations that interest you is a great way to make your education more relevant to your likes and interests. Most colleges participate in exchange programs that allow you to study not only internationally, but within the U.S. and Canada as well. If you always had in your mind going to a different college or a different state, it might be possible through programs like the National Student Exchange to do so for a semester, quarter, or year. These are all things that prospective employers and graduate schools view as positive. All of these options will not only allow you to satisfy the expectations of your parents, but to make sure that your education is satisfactory and fulfilling to yourself as well.